When Expectation Meets Reality
"Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectation."
I have a habit of having high expectations. I have expectations for my family, friends, my students, co-workers, and basically any relationship.
Is it wrong having high expectations? No.
Is it wrong having high expectations of imperfect people? Yes and no.
I expect the best out of my loved ones. So when disappointment comes around the corner a small piece of my world is shattered. I set myself up for heartbreak when I expect perfection from a broken world.
That is when I remember who I should put my high expectations in. He is God. He is perfect. He can handle my "small" high expectations. This reminds me of Psalm 55:22, "Pile your troubles on God’s shoulders— he’ll carry your load, he’ll help you out.He’ll never let good people topple into ruin." (The Message)
I should not place crazy demands on the people in my life. Why should I? I couldn't possibly meet their expectations because I too am imperfect.
God is all knowing. He sees what I cannot. He does what I cannot. Even when I believe that my expectations are the best, He gives me new ones. "The amazing thing about God is that even a "no" has goodness written all over it."
I used to think a "No" was the worst answer. As I have grown older I realize that what "I" think is not even to close to the big picture that God can see. I am more than happy to give Him my high expectations and let Him take the reins.
When a friend or family member disappoints me it is an opportunity for God to remind me that He is in control. It is a reminder that He takes my chaos and gives me peace. His "No" is a blessing in disguise that I cannot yet see.
"We don’t yet see things clearly. We’re squinting in a fog, peering through a mist. But it won’t be long before the weather clears and the sun shines bright! We’ll see it all then, see it all as clearly as God sees us, knowing him directly just as he knows us!" 1 Corinthians 13:12 (The Message)